Are you caring for an elderly parent or perhaps thinking about taking it on as your parent requires extra help at home? Whether you’re looking for some additional guidance on where to start or have been caring for your elderly parent for a while, our guide can help. We’ve put together this useful guide so you can learn more about what caring for an elderly parent entails and how you can get extra support.
If you’re caring for an elderly parent and would benefit from a regular break or having a Care Worker attend to your parent’s needs, then Home Care could be a great option. This involves a trained Care Worker visiting your elderly parent in their home and providing as much or as little care as they require. At Alina Homecare, all our Care Workers are fully trained and ready to help make life easier for you and your elderly parent. To learn more about our services, contact your local Alina Homecare Team today or request a free Home Care brochure now.
Watching someone you love slowly lose independence and require additional support can be difficult. Many people respond to this situation by taking on care responsibilities themselves. Because of this, over three million people aged 40-60 provide care for an elderly parent in the UK.1 There is a wealth of benefits to caring for an elderly parent but it also comes with significant challenges. Ultimately, the right care option for your elderly parent should satisfy both your needs and theirs.
Alina Homecare is an award winning Home Care provider operating in the South of England. If you have extra care needs and want to receive support in the comfort and familiarity of the place you call home, we can help. Find your local Team today.
Five things to consider when caring for an elderly parent
Taking on the role of caring for an elderly parent is a big and sometimes life changing decision so needs to be thoroughly thought through. There are many factors to consider before committing yourself to being a primary caregiver. You need to think about your needs and ability to provide care whilst also considering your elderly parent’s requirements as well as if and how you could fully meet them. Ultimately, you want to ensure your elderly parent is living the best quality of life possible without reducing your own.
Here are five things you should consider before committing to caring for an elderly parent:
Understand your parent’s wishes It’s understandable that your aging parent may have different opinions about the care they would like to receive. A difference in opinion regarding this can often cause tension, which could put a strain on your relationship. It’s important to take time to understand what your parent’s wishes are and ensure they feel listened to. Approach the situation with patience and compassion to avoid any negative feelings.
Ultimately, your parent is the one receiving the care so it’s important that their needs and preferences are considered. As people age, they’re likely to feel like they’re losing their independence. Because of this, ensuring that they are involved in their future can mitigate these feelings and make them feel more empowered. However, if your elderly parent has Alzheimer’s disease or another condition that inhibits their ability to make decisions for themselves, it’s important to act in their best interest.
Evaluate your concerns Choosing to provide care for an elderly parent is a decision which requires a lot of thought. As a result, concerns may arise which you need to carefully evaluated. It’s important you consider your ability to meet your elderly parent’s care needs whilst also addressing any concerns you have.
Talking about your concerns with your elderly parent, other family members as well as a trained professional, such as your parent’s doctor, can be helpful in finding a resolution. As a result, this approach could help alleviate the pressure of caring for an elderly parent and can make you feel more supported in making decisions regarding their care.
If you meet their care needs Your ability to fully support your elderly parent and meet their care needs is also something that needs to be carefully considered. Providing dedicated support may be difficult if you have other responsibilities such as your own children or if you have a job. It’s important you don’t spread yourself too thin as this can have a negative impact on your mental and physical wellbeing. Many people feel caregiver guilt if they are unable to meet a loved one’s care needs alone; however, it is important to be realistic as a rational decision is ultimately needed to ensure the best level of care is provided.
This is particularly important if your elderly parent has a medical condition such as dementia or cancer, or if they’ve recently come out of hospital and are now more vulnerable. Having an open discussion with your elderly parent to understand their requirements will allow you to evaluate whether you can meet their needs.
Care requirements will change over time Many people require more care and support as they age. Because of this, it’s likely that the amount of care your elderly parent needs will increase over time. If you choose to provide care for your elderly parent, it’s important that your ability to provide additional care as it’s needed is considered.
Having regular conversations with your elderly parent and other professionals involved with their care can help you decide what the right option is as their needs evolve. As the amount of care required increases, you may want to consider other options such as elderly Home Care or a residential facility to ensure your elderly parent’s needs are met.
Your personal needs Although caring for an elderly parent can be beneficial, you also need to consider your personal needs. It’s important you are still able to fulfil other commitments and take time for yourself to support your mental wellbeing.
To provide high quality care, your needs must also be met. If you choose to care for an elderly parent, there are various places you can get support and advice to ease the responsibility of being a caregiver for a loved one. You may also consider getting Respite Care so you can have a regular break and time for yourself whilst your elderly parent’s needs are being met by a trained Care Worker.
Benefits of caring for an elderly parent
Remain at Home
Many people wish to remain at home as they age due to it often being the place where they feel safest and most comfortable. It can be unsettling to leave behind cherished memories and familiar routines, especially for the elderly. Caring for an elderly parent means they can remain in their home which often has positive impacts on their mood and mental wellbeing.
Familiarity
Receiving care from someone you don’t know can be uncomfortable and could lead to feelings of anxiety and stress. This can particularly be the case if intimate Personal Care is required. Caring for an elderly parent means their care needs will be met by someone they are familiar with. This could result in your elderly parent being more open to receiving the support they require.
Strengthen Relationships
Caring for an elderly parent means you’ll spend more quality time with them which may strengthen the bond you share. Having a more trusting relationship also means your elderly parent may feel more open about discussing their care needs as they evolve. This can also increase the appreciation you both share for each other and positively impact your relationship.
Opportunity to Give Back
Providing care for your elderly parent can often feel like the role has been reversed between parent and child. Many people see it as an opportunity to return the love and nurture they have received over the years. Caring for an elderly parent can bring a sense of fulfilment and gratitude which can positively impact your mental health.
Peace of Mind
If your parent lives on their own, you may feel anxious regarding their safety and ability to support themselves at home. For instance, you may be worried if they have had a fall or if they have taken their required medication. Caring for an elderly parent yourself provides peace of mind as these worries can be relieved as you know what care has been provided.
Cost Effective
Although there will be some costs involved in caring for an elderly parent to meet their needs safely, it’s often much less in comparison to other care options. For example, caring for an elderly parent at home incurs less costs than a care home or other residential facility. If you choose to provide care yourself, you may also be entitled to financial support from the government.
Sense of Purpose
Providing care, especially for a loved one, is highly rewarding. As a result, you may feel a sense of purpose as your elderly parent relies on you to support them and their needs. Seeing how the care you provide has a direct positive impact on the quality of life of someone you love can bring purpose to your life. This will likely result in better mental wellbeing as a result.
Support for caring for an elderly parent
Caring for an elderly parent can be difficult and you may need some extra support to help you do this. Taking on this responsibility may mean you can only work part time which could cause financial stress. You may also need support in other areas as well.
Some people may feel trapped caring for an elderly parent which could have a negative impact on mental wellbeing and can cause tension or resentment. Sometimes all it takes is having a conversation with someone who listens to your concerns and can support how you’re feeling.
With the number of people caring for an elderly parent continuously increasing, there are many different ways you can get support:
Financial support
Caring for an elderly parent can cause financial concerns. There will be different costs involved in providing care, especially if the person needing care has a medical condition or if they require full time support. This financial responsibility can be overwhelming and could put pressure on the relationship between you and your elderly parent.
Luckily, there are many different schemes and allowances available you may be able to apply for if you meet certain criteria. Firstly, you may be eligible to receive Carer’s Allowance.2 This is a taxable benefit for people aged over 16 who provide continuous care for another person. Many caregivers are unable to work full time therefore this can help supplement income to allow quality care to continue. You may be able to receive up to £76.75 a week. To be eligible however, you need to meet the following criteria:
Provide care for at least 35 hours a week
Not in full time education
Your earnings are £139 a week or less after tax and National Insurance
If your parent has a disability or medical condition and is younger than the state pension age, they may be eligible to receive Personal Independence Payment. If they are older than the state pension age, they may be able to receive Attendance Allowance to support their ability to receive the care they need.
Wellbeing support
Although caring for an elderly parent can be rewarding, it can take a toll on your physical and mental wellbeing. You may be so focused on ensuring your parent’s care needs are met, that you begin to neglect your own. If you provide care for your parent over a long period of time, you may begin to experience caregiver burnout or emotional fatigue. This is not uncommon as a recent study found over 60% of caregivers experience burnout at some point.3
If this occurs, it’s likely that the care you provide may not be of as good quality as it would be otherwise. You may begin to feel agitated which could result in tension when caring for your parent. Many people who care for an elderly parent also worry that they are not supporting them enough. In fact, over 6.6 million people have reported they are worried they don’t know how to support their parents in later life.4 These feelings can also have a negative impact on your mental wellbeing.
Luckily, there are many support services for caregivers who are feeling this way. There may be support groups for caregivers in your local community where you can engage with other people in similar situations. Often, there are trained professionals who attend these support groups that you can talk to for advice and to voice any concerns.
If you don’t want to talk about your feelings to someone face to face, there are also online support services. Age UK has an advice line which is open 365 days a year for caregivers to call for information and advice.5
Respite Care
We all need a break from time to time. Caring for an elderly parent can be overwhelming which can lead to caregiver stress. It’s important to have a break to take some quality time for yourself and enjoy the things that you want to do.
Respite Care makes finding time to do this possible. This is where a trained Care Worker provides support for your parent whilst you have a regular break, so continuity of care is maintained. Many people who care for an elderly parent choose to receive Respite Care so they can support their own goals whilst providing the best care possible.
If you think you and your elderly parent would benefit from Respite Care, then learn more about our Respite Care service now. Our Care Workers are fully trained and ready to provide care for your elderly parent whilst you enjoy regular time to yourself.
What can help you provide care for an elderly parent?
There are many challenges that can come with caring for an elderly parent. If you don’t live with them, you may feel worried or anxious when you’re away. Moving in with your elderly parent or them with you can help, but a lot of the time this isn’t possible.
Ultimately, you want to ensure their safety whilst meeting their care needs in a way which supports their independence. Luckily, there are different ways you can make caring for an elderly parent easier:
Home adaptations
If you’re caring for an elderly parent, you may find supporting them to complete daily tasks difficult if the home isn’t correctly equipped. As a result, this could make everyday activities for your parent unsafe and you may find it challenging to help them. To limit the impact of this issue, home adaptations to support the elderly can provide additional help.
There are many different adaptations which can be implemented into the home and routines to help you provide care for an elderly parent. They can support them with tasks such as cooking, washing and moving around the home. This extra support can make caring for an elderly parent easier as there is less you have to do.
Home adaptations for the elderly can vary significantly depending on the amount of extra help they provide. A stair lift or a grab bar can support your elderly parent with their mobility. If they struggle at mealtimes, a kettle tipper or easy to grip cutlery can help.
Home adaptations for your elderly parent may be expensive. Fortunately, smaller adaptations that cost under £1,000 may be covered by your local council.
Remote monitoring systems
Many people who care for an elderly parent have other responsibilities and commitments. Because of this, they may not be able to check in on their parent as much as they would like to ensure they’re safe and comfortable. This could lead to anxiety and worry.
Luckily, there are a wide range of elderly monitoring systems to support this and provide much needed peace of mind. These systems allow you to monitor your elderly parent and their activities remotely so that no matter where you are, you can check that they are safe.
Remote monitoring systems for the elderly can monitor different things depending on the system you choose. They may monitor your parent’s location, such as indoor but also outdoor activities and some can detect their heart rate or signal an alarm if they detect a fall.
The added reassurance that elderly monitoring systems provide can give a boost in confidence for both you and them. Reducing the worry you may have can allow you to focus on other goals in your life when caring for an elderly parent. Read our guide to learn more about how to monitor your elderly parent remotely.
Home Care
Solely caring for an elderly parent can be draining and it’s likely you may need some extra support to help you. Many people who care for a parent choose to receive elderly Home Care to relieve some pressure that caregiving can cause. In fact, almost one million people in the UK receive Home Care so that they can live independently at home.6
With this type of support, a trained Care Worker will visit the home at agreed times to provide agreed care for your elderly parent and assist them with their daily activities and routines. Most Home Care Workers can support your elderly parent’s typical activities including Personal Care routines, housekeeping tasks and also provide companionship.
A lot of people may feel uncomfortable providing help with personal hygiene or intimate care for their elderly parents. Many parents may also feel embarrassed or apprehensive about receiving this type of care from their children. By choosing Home Care, a Care Worker will help your elderly parent with this type of care so that your relationship doesn’t have to change. This then allows you to spend quality time with your parent that doesn’t involve caring for them in this way.
Tips for choosing a care provider for your elderly parent
If you choose to receive extra support from a care provider to help you care for your elderly parent, you may be wondering which one to choose. As there are many different care providers available, you may find it difficult to decide on the right choice for your situation. Ultimately, the best choice meets both your and your parent’s needs.
To help you choose the most suitable option for you, we’ve compiled some top tips to help guide you with your decision:
Assess Services Offered
Making sure that your parent’s care needs are fully met is paramount. It’s important to research what services each care provider offers to understand if they will be able to provide the right care. Some care providers don’t offer services for certain conditions such as dementia or Parkinson’s, for example.
Consider the Cost
Cost can also play an important part in choosing a care provider. If your parent doesn’t require round the clock care, Home Care is often a more cost effective option than a care home. Some care providers, such as Alina Homecare, can also provide funding support to cope with the cost of care.
Check Accreditation
The quality of care provided must also be considered. You want to make sure that the care your elderly parent receives is quality assured. Most care providers are regulated by external bodies, such as the Care Quality Commission (CQC) and are regularly inspected to ensure this.
Read Reviews
Most care providers share reviews on their website, or you can read reviews on third party sites. It’s important to consider other family’s experiences with care providers to understand if they’re the right choice. Take time to read other people’s opinions to help you make your decision.
Consider the Flexibility
Things change at a moment’s notice which can be challenging. When choosing a care provider, understand their level of flexibility. You want to make sure you choose a provider that can adapt to your elderly parent’s evolving needs and can provide care whenever it’s needed.
How we can support your elderly parent
If you’re caring for an elderly parent and would benefit from some extra support to ease the pressure, we can help. At Alina Homecare, we provide a range of Home Care services to support your elderly parent so they can live safely and independently at home. This includes Personal Care, Companion Care, Domestic Care, Live-in Care and much more.
If you wish to remain your parent’s primary caregiver but need a regular break, our Respite Care or Overnight Care services can help. We also provide dedicated care for a wide range of conditions. Our Teams are fully trained and ready to support your parent after a stroke or hospital stay or if they have a medical condition such as cancer or dementia. To learn more about our care services, request a free Home Care brochure today.
We understand the importance of providing quality care to make life easier for the elderly. All our services are fully regulated by the CQC to ensure the high level of quality we provide to everyone who uses our services. We also believe great care comes from great training which is why all our Care Workers receive excellent training through our exclusive Academy, so you know your elderly parent is in safe hands.
